COVID-19 and The Life Reset

What a whirlwind and still so much of 2020 we have left, certainly have been through enough. Now what?

I had just turned forty this past March and had not posted a blog in a long time. I decided this year would be my new chapter. However, as we all know the unexpected happened to our world. As a society we faced Corona Virus or COVID 19 and now we had to do the impossible and cut out civilization in our modern time.

For myself, my family lost two family members, my husband lost his job and then I lost my job and we had to redesign our brain, goals, dreams, hopes and prayers.

At first glance, this was not only horrible but devastating. The loss of the family was utterly shocking. This could not be happening to us and not being able to be there for the family and mourn these amazing people that we loved so much. The matriarch and patriarch of our family was taken from us so swiftly. We could not hug and embrace anyone who needed the love. As time moved on we had to push on without consideration or emotional healing.

When my husband was fired in April at first I felt life would just swallow us whole, and we could not survive with my job alone. I started to save and contacted all our utilities and bills to warn them them of our situation and right when I thought we had it under control I was then terminated and now I had only our savings. I felt sadness finally overcome us, and then my husband said we got this.

This whole time since “quarantine” I never felt embarrassed or the need to explain anything to anyone as I could clearly see my neighbors and family were facing the same issues. We were not alone but forced into hypochondria, hermit dwellings and of course solitude.

We faced our children and decided to tell them our truths and what is going on in our world. They were ages four, nine and eleven. I was not surprised on the level of information they already had and my sons biggest concerns was our health and well being. They are normally very mature and articulate and the care is very reliable, they let us know we can count on them.

Getting desperate was not a choice I had to search my soul for a stronger mother, wife and neighbor. With my savings I started momming up our budget, my time, our life experiences, walking with my kids, my dogs and never without masks, gloves and shields. Taking my children by hugs only and constantly letting them know how proud we are of them. Playing with them and relearning who they are. I had missed so much of them due to work and life and the daily hustle.

My husband did not let us down as he started to become the best baker in town, builder, inventor, dog trainer, crafter, artist, pianist and even an ordained minister. It was amazing to see him blossom into his passions he always wanted to do. He became more involved with the Rotary Club of our town and started to smile like I had almost forgotten he could and had’nt seen for all these years.

I felt lost in the beginning and I became introverted but my husband inspired me to just thank GOD and feel blessed and remember who I was. And, one day I did, we all did.

I searched the internet and found maybe the last one but a pool that will do the job and I got it a 12ft. kiddie pool for my children. With our own two hands built my family built a kid oasis in the backyard. We spent every day there even in the early cold spring. When we heard the lake would open we decided to go and see. Looking back on the past three months I can honestly say that we spent every day from Monday to Friday at 11 am to 12:30 at the lake and then in our yard in the afternoon just living, for our children.

Finally, living a way that focused as a family with our children and not a penny to spend, spare or lend. We had to rethink our budget: food, bills, lifestyle but we did not save on was praying and staying mindful and hopeful still.

My husband was able to find a new job in July and we are grateful with a very tight purse. I still need to be with my babies as I have no camp to send them to and no job to run off to, all they have is me and I have is to be with my family as this is what we need now in this reset of life.

What will fall bring? What will happen when the boys go back to school? I start to feel the anxiousness come over me but I turn to my husband and he grounds me and says that we will worry about that when it happens live for today.

Thank you for reading my blog I am back with vengeance for life my #Fannyasticlife !

#COVID19 #CoronaVirus #2020 #LifeReset

Business Me

Everyday is an adventure; keep your wits about you. On these journeys we need to realize who we are. Understanding the depth of your character can truly impact your day and how you interact with others.

We have many sides of who we are: Home me; Friends me; School me; Alone me; and, Business me.

Business me is savvy, energetic, motivated, confrontational, problem-solver, secure, a team player, wears a suit, always polished, a leader, a listener, shows empathy, rallies the group, gives condolences, corresponds, requisitions, makes no demands, offers praise, gives rewards, builds networks, lends a hand, puntional, reliable, and always shows respect.

Keep in mind that although this is characterized under the category “Business me”, over all, this is still me.

Having this position of realization changes the ball game because knowing who I am puts the ball in my court.

Identifying myself helps me identify other and their own needs. The saying goes, “You know what you are going to say but you don’t know what someone else will say.” Mastering your identity helps you to engage on a level that allows anyone participating in a conversation with you to leave with feeling of mutual respect and no matter the topic a sense of enjoyment.

Whether work or play I tend to have a #Fannytasticlife

Reading for fun

My son’s love reading. And find books that would peak their interests wasn’t to hard. I found a list online and I wanted to share it:

The 39 Clues
Across Five Aprils
The Adventures of Huckleberry Finn
The Adventure of Tintin
Aesop’s Fables
Artemis Fowl
Babe the Gallant Pig
Billy Budd
Black Like Me
The Book Thief
Brian’s Winter
Bridge to Terabithia
Bud, Not Buddy
The Butter Battle Book
The Call of the Wild
The Cat in the Hat by Dr. Seuss
Charlie and the Chocolate Factory
Charlotte’s Web
The Chosen
A Christmas Carol
The Chronicles of Narnia (series)
Crossing the Wire
David Copperfield
Diary of a Wimpy Kid (series)
Defeat of the Ghost Riders
Discworld (series)
Doctor Dolittle (series)
Dune
Encyclopedia Brown (series)
Everybody’s Revolution
Falling Up
Far North
Football Genius
The Friendship
The Giving Tree
The Graveyard Book
Great Expectations
The Great Quarterback Switch
Grimm’s Fairy Tales
The Hardy Boys (series)
Harry Potter (series)
Hatchet
The Hobbit
Holes
Honus & Me
Horton Hears a Who!
The Hunger Games
James and the Giant Peach
Joey Pigza (series)
Johnny Tremain
A Light in the Attic
Lord of the Flies
The Lord of the Rings (series)
Magic Treehouse (series)
Maniac Magee
Maximum Ride (series)
The Maze Runner
Mrs. Frisby and the Rats of NIHM
My Father’s Dragon (series)
My Side of the Mountain
Of Mice and Men
The Old Man and the Sea
Old Yeller
On My Honor
The Outsiders
Percy Jackson & the Olympians (series)
The Tale of Peter Rabbit
The Phantom Tollbooth
The Red Badge of Courage
The River
Robinson Crusoe
The Sea Wolf
A Separate Peace
A Series of Unfortunate Events (series)
The Shadow Children (series)
Shane
Shiloh
Siddhartha
Sounder
The Stinky Cheese Man and Other Fairy Stupid Tales
The Strange Case of Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde
Stuart Little
Sunrise Over Fallujah
The Tale of Despereaux
Tales of a Fourth Grade Nothing
The Time Machine
To Build a Fire
To Kill a Mockingbird
Travel Team
Treasure Island
Tuck Everlasting
Tuesdays with Morrie
The War of the Worlds
Watership Down
Wayside School (series)
Where the Sidewalk Ends
Where the Red Fern Grows
Where the Wild Things Are
White Fang
The Wind in the Willows
A Wrinkle in Time

We have fun with reading. My kids get “Our Home” (ourhomeapp.com) chore points for each book they read. I give them 10 pts for 30 min. They need to read at least 3 hours a week. For the books on this list they get 250 pts.

More than the points they really enjoy having task and being part of a moving element in the house.

Our family time is so important. We always take this time seriously.

It is part of being #Fannytasticlife

It’s Nerf or nothing…

My goodness with my three sons, getting shot by stray foam bullets and bullets with my name on it, just from their Nerf crossfire; this a regular everyday thing with the #Chicoboyz

I am one that almost always allows it and doesn’t pick of a weapon to defend my self…just the lazer mommy stare.

Recently, at work, someone incorporated some Nerf guns to eliminate stress and to blow off the steam. I thought in the beginning…”what the heck”… but it truly is entertaining to watch.

I decided to get some Nerf guns for work and join in. I have never felt so much joy, I even put special messages on the bullets.

I honestly feel young, again. About 15 years or so have been shaved off my work age. I honestly suggest every business, company, corporation to give this out to the employees. Because “it Nerf or nothing” in this #Fannytasticlife

Got hope?

Recently my father passed away.  I have been torn to write down anything for a while.  When he passed I quickly wrote an obituary (never sent in) and a ulogy (never spoken) but we had heard that his death may have been murder, torture or he may be alive; uncertain. Nevertheless,  we then we found out that it was true.

How could this be? My father was suppose to come back to the United States this year; he had waited the ten years.  All that stood between us was paperwork, filing and an interview.

My heart cracked and I just dont feel the same.  I had forgotten the golden rule that my dad told me. Since, I was a little girl my father would say…”Fanny lower your expectation so it doesn’t hurt so much in the end”… I always thought that my dad was silly to say this, and most of his catch phrases.  However, now, not as a an adult but an adult who experienced his passing; suddenly all his phrases make sense and have transitioned into defining statements.

Here are some examples and what I believe may have been verses from songs.  In my home, he constantly used them to emphasize moments:

“Caught you with the meat in your mouth”

“Distance, don’ let them take you away”

“Trash, don’ pick it up, don’t throw your life away”

“You wouldn’t buy spoiled milk, so why would you buy anything less than an A”

“But, do you love me”

“Via con Dios”

“Smile, when you feel like crying”

“We are still on earth, together”

“Eleanor, me for, Amor, the door rhyme with Fanor”

“I dreamt of your mother, she loves you”

“My Shari”

I see that now; the meaning.

Hope, I have it; and for the rest of my #Fannytasticlife

 

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In memory of:

Ramiro Fanor Alanez Melean

03.11.49 to 08.27.17

 

 

Time has lapsed…

Many changes occurred in this lapse of time. I will share later; each milestone and I apologize for the wait but li fe swallowed me for a second and now I have been digested.

Getting back to being #fannytasticlife in a rebirth.

Life Goals 2017

I am posting this because when you manifest positively you make it happen. 

Every year since I was 21 on the Sunday of this week I try to publicly.  I encourage you to establish yours.

Life Goals: Status is tentative.

1. Have a family with hubby – √

2. Be a home owner -√

3. Sell and buy a home with land -√

4. Get a car – √

5. Get a license to drive – √

5. Get a Master’s Degree

6. Get a helicopter license

7.Become a Lyft drive (why not)

8. Ride a horse -√

9. Ride a camel -√

10 Travel (partially)

A. Bolivia 

B. Ecuador

C. Colombia

D. Peru

E. Mexico

F. Canada

G. Europe

H. Latvia

I. Poland

J. China

K. Dubai

L. Dominican Republic

M. Italy

N. Sweden

O. Vegas

P. Every state (20% completed)

11. Go to Disney √

12. Swim in the Gulf  √

13. Win the lottery

14. Nobel Peace Price

15. Get my PhD.

16.  Fluent in Languages

A. Russian

B. Cantonese

C. Hebrew

D. Quechua

E. Spanish

F. Polish

G. French

H. Arabic

I. German

17.  Enjoy my grandkids with my husband.

18. Be driven around by my son’s.

19. Be mayor of my town

20. Have a fantastic blog

21. Grow my hair super long.

22. Become a better Baker.

23. Have a fannytasticlife and enjoy living!   (Working on it)

Liberated 

Free your mind!

I am always smiling. It my nature; Chester cat, so go call Alice.

I live life creating goals, then tackling challenges.

My life is like a count down clock 10, 9, 8, 7… I don’t know really how much time I have left… who really does.  So I need to make sure I smell the flowers deeper, I look at my children’s faces longer.  I annoy them with my constant playful harassing love.

I hope they remember my scent, my voice, my character. 

I often forget these qualities of my late mother.  So, I try really hard to talk to her and look at her pictures.  Keep her legacy alive.

One lesson I learned (simple yet amazing): At your own pace. This will set your mind free because you are only racing you.

I hope here I can open-minds and free my voice.

Licensed 

Reve it up.

I’m feeling amazing.

I can now officially check this off my list.  I have other items on my list and one by one, I will check them and keep it moving. I’m not afraid to set challenges and overcome obstacles.  

Staying in my lane in this #Fannytasticlife.